Friday, April 24, 2020

WILL YOUR RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE


Sometimes its better to be KIND than to be RIGHT.
*we  do not need an intelligent mind that speaks, but a patient heart that listens.

*we are spending more time in indoors, more time than ever. Living in close quarters  doing every activity together. They  call it CABIN FEAR – the distressing , claustrophic , irritability or restlessness experienced when a personal group is stuck at an isolation location or in a confined quarters for an extend period of time.

*we call it a relationship and they say its called relationship because we all need a boat. A ship to help us travel over trouble times. But sometimes it can feel like sinking . its tough , trying to be perfect partner, perfect parent, perfect person, when you have to be perfect all day.

*we all are in state of discomfort, so everything feels too close for comfort. HE/SHE  you don’t help me out around and SHE / HE  says I am trying to work and HE/SHE says” but I am just trying to get some face time and they SHE/HE  says I need some space ,why don’t you zoom out?

*you are going to make mistakes ,there going to a debates and conflict because of higher stacks. When everyone is feeling the pain, but no one wants to talk about it for other sake. Because we are scared of scaring the other person our fears are out of place.

*you know what  its like , our anxiety turns into anger, our pain turns into panic, our fatigue turns into friction. We end up saying mean things. Thing “we don’t even mean”. We start saying “ you always do this or you never do that”. But the truth is, no one is always do something and no never does anything.

*we all know that but this isn’t a logical ,rational argument so we are both losing. AS  BUDDHA TEACH WE ARE NOT PUNISHED FOR OUR ANGER , WE ARE PUNISHED BY OUR ANGER.

# WE need to stop judging ourselves for not having a plan ,no one expected that. We need to spot feeling guilty because we don’t have it all together. We need stop judging others because they did not expect it either
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*we need stop making others feel guilty because we are in this together. We argue and bicker and wonder why we cant fatigue this out because there is something bigger at a play bigger than what is about.

# the only way we can beat it, is if we stick together, put aside our difference give each other space. still  make a plain and make those special dates. Remember , relationships “DON’T ALWAYS FAIL BECAUSE PEOPLE DO BAD THINGS TO EACH OTHER”.MORE OFTEN IT’S A BECAUSE THEY DID NOT DO GOOD THINGS FOR EACH OTHER.

#tell people HOW MUCH YOU MEAN to them you remind them every day. Because the biggest virus is if we forget to say I LOVE YOU, I NEED YOU, I MISS YOU.

Remember to be kind for people around you do not let this change the way you love people. don’t make  this virus. Make you love people less this time we need it the most.

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